It has been a lovely event – you danced, drank and dined and now it is time for you to depart. And at the appropriate time too – not the first to leave, but certainly not the last. You do NOT want to be that person. The last to leave is neither helpful nor welcomed – just lingering because there is alcohol available and the hostess has doesn’t have the gall to escort you out the door. Regardless how fabulous you may have been all night – if you fail to exit at an acceptable hour, you will be the one who is discussed during the morning after post party chatter. This much I know.
However your duty as a welcomed guest doesn’t end once you have bid your goodbyes. A proper thank you is in order. What is now considered standard is far from formal, but with pen to paper communication an endangered art form, I suggest the style of the event dictate the method of delivery.
If you were an overnight guest or the benefactor of a generous experience, a hand written thank you note should be executed. Since words now travel with the touch of the send button the wait for a letter to be delivered by the postal service it may appear if you neglected to acknowledge the kindness of the act. For this I recommend the quick email or phone call with a follow up thank you card.
If you attended a party, be it in one’s home or another location I believe an email or a more public form of online (facebook, twitter, google +) appreciation is suitable. If the night was spent casually, a text is adequate as well.
By properly expressing gratitude to your hostess, you will reserve your permanent placement for future guest lists.
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