Q: I recently celebrated my birthday at a neighborhood bar where I was inundated with gifts. Our party moved around a bit and presents were consolidated in bags as to accommodate the growing group. (Yes, I am that popular.) I opened my presents later that night at home and there was one gift without a tag or card. I can’t recall who handed me the gift or if it was placed directly in the pile, but I would like to properly thank the giver. How do I suss out the present provider without embarrassing someone who did not give me a gift?
A: This is a great question and one that is universal. It is admirable that you are concerned as not to embarrass other gift-less guests. I suggest you send an email mentioning how much you love the gift, but fear that the identifying card had become separate in transit. Email this letter to those that you suspect might be the (ir)responsible party, BUT send it as a BCC. Most likely the friend that gave you the anonymous present will be the only one to respond. The non-gifter will think there were many who didn’t arrive with a birthday offering and not feel outed.
Do you have a dilemma, quandary or question? Email me firstname.lastname@example.org! If I don’t have the answer, I’ll certainly make something up that will sound sage, wise and legitimate.
Telling it like it is,